如何有效地使用肢體語言

錢盈盈

面部表情、眼神、頭部的運動、手勢以及身體的姿態(tài)等這些非言語手段將完成很多語言交流無法完成的溝通任務。如何恰當?shù)剡\用肢體語言來提升我們的交流呢？讓我們一起到文章中尋找答案！

難詞探意

1. gaze /ge·z/ v. 凝視;注視

2. spine /spa·n/ n. 脊柱;脊椎

3. parallel /·p·r·lel/ adj. 平行的

4. vibe /va·b/ n. 感應;氣氛

5. disingenuous /·d·s·n·d·enju·s/ adj. 不真誠的;不坦率的

6. bilateral /ba··l·t·r·l/ adj. 雙邊的;雙方的

7. intimidating /·n·t·m·de·t··/ adj. 嚇人的;令人膽怯的

Body language is an important part of being an effective communicator. You can make a positive impression on other people when you learn to use good body language. Here are some effective tips.

Get in the right mindset

One of the easiest ways to ensure friendly body language is to go into a room with friendly intentions. “Before meeting someone， imagine that you really like the person，” said Elena Ledoux. “Then when you start the meeting， try to find reasons why you sincerely like him or her. This leads to a friendly gaze， relaxed body posture， and more smiling.” When you make someone feel special， theyre more likely to go the extra mile for you in the future.

Perfect your posture

The foundation of good body language is great posture. Straighten your spine， relax your shoulders， and keep your chin parallel to the floor. Youll also want to keep your arms in a position that doesnt close off your chest. “Keep your body open or unblocked，” said John P. Garrison， a psychologist and body language expert. "We tend to cover our chest when we feel anxious or threatened so when it is open， were seen as more open and honest.”

Flash a smile

Everyone knows that smiling gives off positive vibes and shows people youre open to conversation. But not just any smile will do; in fact， a disingenuous one could wind up backfiring. “Honest emotions are bilateral，" said Garrison. "That means they show up on both sides of the face. So make sure if you are going to smile， that it is a full and genuine one. A smile on one side of the face is unconsciously interpreted as contempt， so a quick grin or an attempted polite onesided smile is not a good idea."

Make eye contact

Strong eye contact is key to appearing friendly and confident. “Looking someone in the eyes is too intimidating，” body language expert Lillian Glass said. “Instead， look at the total face for one second.” Obviously， youll also want to avoid looking around the room or checking your phone.

Shake on it

A firm handshake makes a strong first impression. Reach out vertically and meet the other person in the middle. “Dont attempt to dominate nor be submissive in your hand positioning，" said Mark Anderson， director of training and development at Anderson Investigative Associates. “Move straight forward and with some measure of firmness. This is not the time for dead fish hands， and if your hand is sweaty， wipe it off.”

Use hand gestures

Once youve started your conversation， youll want to let your body move naturally. “Because we freeze when we feel threatened， minimal body movement can be seen as attempting to be dishonest or deceive，” said Garrison. “Research shows that people who speak with more hand gestures are believed to be more honest than those who do not use their hands when they talk.”

Reading check

What can you learn about the use of body language from the text·

主題應用·語庫構建

Ⅰ. 熱詞積累

（一）身體語言動作類

1. greet 迎接，問候

2. approach 接近

3. defend 保護;保衛(wèi)

4. misunderstand 誤解

5. frown 皺眉

6. hug 擁抱

7. yawn 打哈欠

8. bow 鞠躬

9. shake hands 握手

10. interpret 把……理解為

11. perceive 察覺;理解

12. stare 凝視

13. react 回應

14. weep 抽泣

15. doubt 懷疑

16. nod 點頭

17. bend 屈身

18. touch觸碰

（二）身體語言情感與態(tài)度類

1. angry 生氣的

2. confident自信的

3. confused困惑的

4. embarrassed 尷尬的

5. curious 好奇的

6. interested 感興趣的

7. puzzled 迷惑的

8. disgusted 厭惡的;反感的

9. excited 興奮的

10. enthusiastic 熱情的

11. satisfied/content 滿意的

12. sensitive 敏感的

13. worried/concerned 憂慮的

14. scared/frightened 害怕的

15. indifferent 冷漠的

16. mild 溫和的

17. subjective 主觀的

18. objective 客觀的

19. neutral 中立的

20. ambiguous 含糊的

21. negative 消極的

22. positive 樂觀的

23. supportive 贊成的

24. approving 同意的

25. opposed 強烈反對的

（三）身體部位

1. head 頭

2. face 臉

3. cheek 臉頰

4. eye 眼睛

5. nose 鼻子

6. eyebrow 眉毛

7. tooth 牙齒

8. mouth 嘴巴

9. ear 耳朵

10. chin 下巴

11. elbow 肘部

12. hand 手

13. thumb 大拇指

14. forefinger 食指

15. middle finger 中指

16. ring finger 無名指

17. little finger 小指

18. leg 腿

19. knee 膝蓋

20. foot 腳

（四）身體語言功能

1. communicate 溝通

2. express/convey 表達

3. relieve 緩解

4. imply 暗示

5. replace 代替

6. strengthen 加強

7. distinguish 區(qū)分

8. make inferences 推理;判斷

9. employ 使用;雇傭

Ⅱ. 美句背誦

1. With so many cultural differences between people， it is lucky to have some similarities in body language.

人與人之間有這么多的文化差異，幸運的是，他們的身體語言有一些相似之處。

2. Making a fist and shaking it means that someone is angry and threatening another person.

握緊拳頭并搖晃它意味著某人生氣并正在威脅另一個人。

3. Body language is the unspoken element of communication that we use to reveal our true feelings and emotions.

肢體語言是我們用來表達真實感受和情緒的不言而喻的交流元素。

4. Being aware of negative body language in others can allow you to pick up on unspoken issues.

注意別人消極的肢體語言可以讓你意識到潛在的問題。

5. Theres a common perception that people who touch their faces while answering questions are being dishonest.

人們普遍認為，在回答問題時觸摸臉部的人是不誠實的。

6. Try to hold the other persons gaze for a few seconds at a time. This will show her that youre sincere and engaged. But， avoid turning it into a staring match！

試著一次盯住對方幾秒鐘。 這會讓她看到你的真誠和投入。 但是，不要把它變成一場盯人的比賽！

7. Truth reveals itself more clearly through our actions than it does through our words.

真理通過我們的行動比通過我們的言語更清楚地揭示出來。

8. The body says what words cannot.

身體能說出言語無法表達的東西。

9. A single look can convey so much.

一個表情可以傳達很多信息。

10. When talking about using the eyes as nonverbal communication， eye contact immediately comes to your mind.

當談到用眼睛作為非言語交際的時候，眼神交流會立刻浮現(xiàn)在你的腦海中。

11. All animals use body language to organize and run their private and social lives.

所有動物都用肢體語言來組織和管理它們的私人和社會生活。

12. Body language may be the determining factor in a job interview.

身體語言可能是求職面試中的決定性因素。

Ⅲ. 讀后創(chuàng)寫

假定你是李華，你所在的班級將舉行一場以“Body language”為主題的演講比賽。請你寫一份演講稿，要點如下：

1. 身體語言的重要性;

2. 身體語言在世界各地的差異性;

3. 學習身體語言的必要性。

注意：

1. 詞數(shù)150左右;

2. 開頭和結尾已給出，不計入總詞數(shù);

3. 可以適當增加細節(jié)，以使行文連貫。

Ladies and gentlemen，

Its my great honor to be here and give a speech titled “The importance of body language”.

Thats all. Thank you for listening.