Is There Anything We Can Do When We're Hurting?

by Kay Heitsch

翻譯：寒星

“祝你天天開心！”這樣的祝福語見得不少吧？但其實(shí)天天開心這樣的理想狀態(tài)是很難達(dá)成的，生活總會(huì)有波折，人的情緒也會(huì)反反復(fù)復(fù)。心情低落的時(shí)候，你是怎么度過的呢？聽聽凱的分享吧。

Is there anything we can do to help ourselves when we are hurting? From personal experience, I think there is.

If we’re feeling down, I believe it works out best to turn on some good music, read some1)uplifting books,exercise, and be around people who are happy.

I remember well when our son Todd died. I did everything I could to fill my mind with2)positive things. I listened to good music and positive tapes that would help me feel better3)mentally. I even took up4)jogging and joined a fun5)fitness group to feel better physically.6)Clinical7)depression runs on both sides of my family. I knew I could not afford to open the door and go down that depressing path. I had to be8)proactive!The choice was mine!

I could have sat around feeling sorry for myself, but who would have been helped from that? Certainly not me! I could have been around other people who were down too. After all,9)misery loves10)company. I’m not saying to tell nobody about things that hurt us. But spending an11)excessive amount of time talking about them is depressing, not only to oneself, but for others too.

I also started to reach out to help other people. I went to nursing homes注1,group homes注2and also had12)foster kids. When I got my mind off of myself and reached out to others I was helped and so were they.

So is there anything we can do to help ourselves when we’re hurting? I believe from personal

experience there is.

當(dāng)我們感到受傷時(shí)，可以做些什么來幫助自己擺脫悲傷嗎？以我的個(gè)人經(jīng)驗(yàn)來說，我認(rèn)為我們可以。

感到情緒低落的時(shí)候，我相信最佳的方式是放幾首美妙的音樂，讀幾本鼓舞人心的書籍，鍛煉身體，和快樂的人待在一起。

我清晰地記得我們的兒子托德離世那時(shí)，我竭盡所能在自己的腦子里填滿樂觀的東西。我聽好聽的音樂和積極正面的錄音帶，它們能讓我在精神上感覺好一些。我甚至開始慢跑，加入一個(gè)有趣的健身團(tuán)體，好讓自己的身體也好受一些。幾近臨床的抑郁癥縈繞著我們兩邊的家庭。我深知自己不能就這樣打開門走上這條抑郁之路，我也負(fù)擔(dān)不起。我必須主動(dòng)出擊！選擇權(quán)在我自己手上！

我本可以無所事事，自憐自傷，但是這樣能給誰帶來好處？當(dāng)然不會(huì)是我！我也完全可以跟其他情緒低落的人在一起，畢竟同病相憐。我并不是說我們不能向別人傾訴那些讓我們悲傷的事情，然而花過多的時(shí)間談?wù)撨@些事情其實(shí)是件很壓抑的事情，不僅僅對(duì)說的人而言如此，對(duì)聽的人亦如此。

同時(shí)，我也開始伸出援手去幫助他人。我會(huì)去養(yǎng)老院、團(tuán)體之家，還收養(yǎng)了孩子。當(dāng)我不再糾結(jié)自己的不幸，伸出手去幫助他人時(shí)，我和他們都得到了幫助。

因此，當(dāng)我們受傷時(shí)我們可以做些什么來幫助自己嗎？我的個(gè)人經(jīng)歷讓我相信，真的可以。

詞組加油站

feel down 感到沮喪，情緒消沉work out 進(jìn)展順利

turn on 打開

take up 開始從事

after all 畢竟

1) uplifting [??p'l?ft??] adj. 令人振奮的

2) positive ['p?z?t?v] adj. 積極的

3) mentally ['ment?l?] adv. 心理上，精神上

4) jogging ['d??ɡ??] n. 慢跑

5) fi tness ['f?tn?s] n. 健康

6) clinical ['kl?n?kl] adj. 臨床的

7) depression [d?'pre?n] n. 抑郁癥

8) proactive [?pr??'?kt?v] adj. 積極主動(dòng)的

9) misery ['m?z?r?] n. 痛苦，不幸

10) company ['k?mp?n?] n. 同伴，伙伴

11) excessive [?k'ses?v] adj. 過度的

12) foster ['f?st?] adj. 領(lǐng)養(yǎng)的，收養(yǎng)的

名師考點(diǎn)小結(jié)

not only...but (also)...意為“不但……而且……；不僅……還……”，連接兩個(gè)簡單句時(shí)，not only可以放在句首，表示強(qiáng)調(diào)，這時(shí)句子要用部分倒裝，而but (also)后的句子用正常語序。例如：

Not only did he say so, but also he did so. 他不僅這樣說了，也這樣做了。

Not only did the dog bark at him, but bit him. 這只狗不但對(duì)著他吠叫，還咬了他。

拓展：not only...but also...是并列連詞，可以連接兩個(gè)相同的句子成分或并列分句。連接主語時(shí)，句子謂語動(dòng)詞應(yīng)與but also后的主語的人稱和數(shù)保持一致。例如：

Not only you but also Jack has been to Hangzhou. 不只你去過杭州，杰克也去過。（連接主語）

I know not only him but also his parents. 我不但認(rèn)識(shí)他，而且還認(rèn)識(shí)他的父母。（連接賓語）

Tom can not only sing but also dance. 湯姆不僅會(huì)唱歌，還會(huì)跳舞。（連接謂語動(dòng)詞）