How to Accept Blame1 when You Deserve2 It咎有應(yīng)得時(shí)如何承擔(dān)責(zé)任

Lisa B. Kift

When you realize that you are at fault for a problem， what will you do？ Thebest thing to do is stand up and own up to the mistake， and find a solution3. Thus，you will do better next time.

Realizing Your Mistake

Recognize youre wrong. Reflect on your words or actions， know what you didpoorly or wrongly， and try to make any necessary changes as a result.

Admitting4 you were wrong doesnt mean that youre weak. In fact， beingable to own up to your mistakes takes a lot of courage.

Apologizing5

Admitting you were wrong shows that youre willing to accept that you areimperfect and make mistakes. It can be difficult to admit your wrongs， but doing soshows others that youre willing to take responsibility6 for what you do.

If necessary， make a sincere7 apology8. Say something sooner rather thanlater. Waiting to see how things shake out is a bad idea. As soon as a situationstarts being unpleasant， own up to your responsibility in creating it. The sooner theproblem is identified9， the sooner a resolution is possible.

Moving Past the Event

Part of accepting blame and taking responsibility can include making up foryour mistake. Come up with some solutions to right your wrong. Whatever it is，show that youre willing to change to make things better.

Nobodys perfect and everyone makes mistakes. Once youve taken all thesteps to make things right， dont live in guilt or shame. Let go of what happened.Accept what happened， learn from it， and then move on.

當(dāng)你意識(shí)到自己在某個(gè)問(wèn)題上犯有過(guò)錯(cuò)時(shí)，你會(huì)怎么辦？最佳的做法就是站出來(lái)承認(rèn)錯(cuò)誤，并找到解決辦法。這樣，下次你會(huì)做得更好。

認(rèn)識(shí)到你的錯(cuò)誤

承認(rèn)自己錯(cuò)了。反思自己的言行，弄清楚自己哪些做得不好或者做錯(cuò)了什么，然后做出任何必要的改變。

承認(rèn)自己錯(cuò)了并不意味著自己的軟弱。事實(shí)上能夠承認(rèn)錯(cuò)誤需要很大的勇氣。

道歉

承認(rèn)自己錯(cuò)了表明你愿意接受自己不完美和犯錯(cuò)的事實(shí)。承認(rèn)自己犯下的過(guò)錯(cuò)可能很難，但那樣做同時(shí)也向他人表明，你愿意為自己的所作所為承擔(dān)責(zé)任。

如果有必要，那就真誠(chéng)道歉。問(wèn)題越早說(shuō)開(kāi)越好。坐等事態(tài)變化是個(gè)糟糕的主意。當(dāng)情況變得令人不悅，你要站出來(lái)承認(rèn)自己造成這種情況的責(zé)任。問(wèn)題越早被確認(rèn)，就有可能越早被解決。

讓事情翻篇

接受指責(zé)和承擔(dān)責(zé)任也包括彌補(bǔ)你所犯下的錯(cuò)誤。要提出一些解決辦法來(lái)糾正你的錯(cuò)誤。無(wú)論是什么解決方法，都表明你愿意改變，來(lái)讓事情變得更好。

沒(méi)有人是完美的，每個(gè)人都會(huì)犯錯(cuò)。一旦你采取了所有可以采取的措施，努力糾正問(wèn)題，就不要生活在內(nèi)疚或羞愧之中。發(fā)生過(guò)的事情就讓它過(guò)去吧。接受所發(fā)生的一切，從中吸取教訓(xùn)，然后繼續(xù)前進(jìn)。

Notes

1. blame 責(zé)備；過(guò)錯(cuò)；罪責(zé)

2. deserve 值得；應(yīng)受

3. solution 解決辦法

4. admit 承認(rèn)；招認(rèn)

5. apologize 道歉；謝罪

6. responsibility 責(zé)任；負(fù)責(zé)

7. sincere 衷心的；誠(chéng)摯的

8. apology 道歉

9. identify 查明；確認(rèn)